Saturday, March 23, 2013

Blessed


BLESSED TO BE HERE,
I DEDICATE THIS BOOK TO ALL WHO HAVE
                             GONE BEFORE ME, 
                             WALK BESIDE ME,
                             AND WILL BE DIAGNOSED AND JOIN THE RANKS
                             OF WARRIORS, UNFORTUNATELY.
                            
                             KNOW YOU ARE LOVED!

                   I owe much to many.  Please let me give my love and thanks to my Children, Grandchildren,  friends, especially, Tami, Angie, Sally, Elisha, Teri, Loretta, Dee, Kathy and Roger, U.C.L.A.’s Team, Dr. N., Arla and Roy (who is no longer with this because of little ‘c’).  My children’s wonderful mates who are children of my heart.  I am blessed beyond words.

MY GOD,  AWESOME HE IS!  I am forever grateful. Love, Big ‘C’

Support Staff


SUPPORT STAFF:
          Obviously, without you nothing is possible.  With you it sometimes seems impossible.  Warriors are new to the drill.  What is an everyday occurrence to you is a new deal to us.  Kindness.  Patience.  Smiles.  Happy attitudes are contagious and reassuring.  Warriors aren't a number and most Support Staff I’ve met are beyond wonderful.    95% of my experience with support staff is great.  For the 5% of less than it should/could be, Warriors and Caretakers should/must ask for a supervisor or turn on their heel and look for another support person . . . NOW!  Don't double the trouble of this battle with poor behavior, attitude or incompetence.  Do all a favor and change it! 
          Remember, THINGS DON'T CHANGE.  WE CHANGE!

    MAY THE FORCE BE WITH ALL OF YOU . . . NOW AND FOREVER!

SEE YOU AT THE VICTORY LINE.

Caretakers


CARETAKERS:
          The privilege and responsibility of caretaking is a joy and can turn into a burden when burnt out.  My caretaking days outnumber my Warrior days.  Caretaking is harder in many ways.  First, Warriors have great drugs; caretakers are drugless, not appreciated properly and double timing normal living while taking care of warriors.  This is not a job for wimps. My hat is off to all of mine.  Remembering the bone weariness and tiredness from my caretaking days, it is a wonder any one shows up for the job. Honestly, angels disguised, they are. 
          1)  Know THIS TOO SHALL PASS!   Repeat often while smiling.  Fake it until you make it.
          2)  Put loving hearing ears on.  Warriors babble.  Their words may be unkind, cruel and sarcastic sounding.  They know not what they say . . . literally, sometimes.  Most of the time, Warriors are talking out of a place they normally wouldn't live in and when healthy again, won't recognize or remember this part of the battle.  Caretakers will remember and MUST forgive.  Laughter is the best.  Don't take anything too seriously, including self.  Today's issues become a faint memory with a new dawn.   Forgive.  Forget!   Please remember what does not kill us makes us stronger.  DON’T smother the Warrior while they sleep.  Count blessings you are the Caretaker, today.
          3)  Find a support group; there are tons of them.  Be proactive and take care of self so helping loved ones is a possibility. Get a massage.  Go for a walk.  In the shower, scream!  Stay real.  Stay honest with everyone except the Warrior.  Cross your fingers and lie. 
          "Yes, you look great!"  "You are always nice."  "I love you no matter what!"  "Being with you makes my day."  "Will see you soon and can't wait."
          Now these may not always be true statements after a hard day, however, they are wonderful things to say to the Warrior with a smile and a hug.  The returns will come.  Promise!